I have in the past considered changing and actually contacted other therapists - both said to talk to my T about it.

I think that the reason I wanted to swap is because I felt stuck, but on reflection I think I had exhausted all the escape channels and all that was left to talk about was the hard stuff - thus changing T's and starting again would buy me more avoidance time.

Saying that, my T is never late and I always feel he is with me during the sessions - I think the obstacles are me and not him.

However I do find the T relationship very confusing, I so feel the push / pull of wanting to be with T and I can understand how hard it must be to actually leave and the feelings of betrayal. But 1 think I have learned from T is to always be interested in my thoughts / feelings without judging them to be good or bad - wonder what your feelings of betrayal are saying to you?

Good luck with finding a new T - sounds like you are coming from a place where you will know what qualities are important in a T.