Thanks so much for the encouragement. I really appreciate it. I really wanted to hear from someone that knows first hand kind of what I am going through and how they dealt with it so I appreciate your post. The "what if" is really what is getting to me. I can picture her with a nice, happy, stable family but I see me being so unhappy wishing that I had kept her and feeling like I am taking something away from her by putting her up for adoption and then I see me keeping her and being so overwhelmed and not knowing how to go on. I do think that my decision was based on a "black and white" system and I am not sure now if it is the right one. The dad is too interested in pursuing his "music career" and is not interested in being held back by me or her. I have suggested that he come to the classes with me or take some by himself but he "doesn't have time to be bothered with things like that because parenting is just common sense." There is no hope there. I guess I am on my own and it is very scary. I just don't want to make the wrong decision and potentially mess up her life. I don't want her to regret me putting her up for adoption or me not putting her up for adoption. Your encouragement is very uplifting though and I really needed to hear it. Thanks so much.