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Aug 22, 2011, 09:47 AM
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Member Since: Jan 2009
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Well, the question is a good one for sure...
How do you know? How do any insiders know? Some didn't know some were in denial for safety reasons. I think there are several ways of knowing and learning this name 'they' have given to this wonderful coping mechanism.
It is nice someone named the way it is done but for those of us in the midst of ourselves well the name is, well it is just a name. It can create quite a stir for outsiders but I wouldn't worry about what they think, if i were you.
The really interesting stuff is internal. Being curious about each other inside helps us to learn to function well, and be on top of it. There are many benefits to knowing each other! Giving each other clues is great. Sometimes the clues are blatant like different handwirtting, voices, behaviours and they are really true to the alter, it's really quite amazing!
But the best thing is to talk together and work stuff out and it takes some time, well really more time than most would prefer, but then again, what were you doing with the rest of your life, anyway?! When we stopped thinking about the drama of it all and accepted the fact that it is what it is was when it all became more doable and acceptable and fun and alive and wonderful! (no not the reasons for it for sure)
All the best to those of you with 'this' and to the loved ones who chose to stay loving us (good MPD therapists  and loving dogs included) we say, you are the best of the best!
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