I think it's both. I try very hard to be sensitive to other people's feelings. I'm never blunt and I like to couch my communications in friendly and open ways. I am probably projecting way too much but I figure that it's not going to hurt me or them to be attentive to how they're feeling.

So, I think that's the same with T. Once when we had scheduled a double session, I asked how she would have time to have lunch. She smiled and thanked me for my concern but that she would snack. So, it's normal and natural for me to 'take care' of people. Actually that is one issue T and I have discussed - how invested I am in that role.

But, I also have fear of her disapproval. So, it's mixed.