I am just learning to be able to recognise my feelings - well recognise that I have them, not so good at naming them just now.

I am also learning that it is OK to have feelings and to express them, but not to "act them out".

So all feelings are valid, but with the understanding that we own them, they are our responsibility and not the others persons.

So from this I am learning to be able to say to someone, I am feeling angry, hurt etc...without losing it and behaving in a uncontrolled way.

I do still think there are times, when honesty is not the best thing - particuarly if the other person may feel a negative emotion in response to your honesty and not be so good themselves at not acting it out - but if you do still then decide to be honest despite that risk, then it's also good to be able to run fast.