I guess it feels like I'm attacking her because I'm going to tell her again how her response to me felt so bad. She's already apologized but I'm bringing it up again. What more can she say? Will she try to defend herself? Will she try to understand my reaction better? Will she be able to explain why she wasn't able to just observe my actions without having her own emotional reaction? Will she be able to help me get past this once and for all so we can proceed? I had thought I was over it but it keeps coming up.

So, we'll be discussing her reaction at that time - a reaction she realized was wrong and was a mistake. So, for me to keep dragging her emotional reaction up DOES seem like an attack - rubbing her nose into a misstep she took. I really feel I shouldn't do that. It doesn't seem right or fair.