How I learned to fight back:

I was so sick and tired of getting hurt, so I got really angry after a while and just started fighting back, and by that, I do not mean getting revenge. I tell people that it was very wrong to do or say that to me and set bourndaries with people.

So, instead of ruminating after someone hurts me, I get it out and feel much better afterwards because I let the people know who have hurt me, how they hurt me, and to never, ever do it again in a not such great tone of voice.

I have found this works so much better than keeping it inside and ruining your physical and emotional health. If people keep doing it to me, it becomes a very toxic situation, so I just remove those individuals from my life and let them know why I have removed them from my life.