((bobobear)) - could you share what kind of placement your son is in and how old he is? Has he been diagnosed with anything? If he's very manipulative and an adult, then he should use the strength he has to manipulate.... to get a job and be self sufficient. If you don't feel its healthy for you to let him come live with you, then by all means tell him this and don't feel guilty. As a parent there comes a time when an adult child needs to survive on their own. I understand this is a hard thing to do and its natural to have mixed feeling, even grief. I wish you and your son a peaceful resolution. Don't let him take advantage of you.