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Old Aug 22, 2011, 01:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Sannah View Post

A person gets to this point by growing up not getting their needs met and having to meet the needs of a someone else at their own expense. If this happens the person needs to learn to meet their own needs and respect boundaries and allow others to take care of themselves. This doesn't mean that you can't help others, though.
Yes, this is one of the main issues we're working on. I keep telling T that I don't want to have needs but obviously I do have needs and I've buried them in the unconscious. She's teaching me how to recognize my own needs and how to uphold boundaries. She's been great helping extract myself from a codependent relationship. I've always lived thinking that taking care of my own needs was selfish and I don't want to be a selfish person. Again, T is great with working with me on this issue.
Thanks for this!
Sannah