Hey ya...I think your being upset at hubby for putting T down is WAY normal I mean here is a NICE man T who cares for you and is helping you...kinda like a friend in a way and he gets insulted ..note he didnt say it to his face...Its also a subtle emotional abuse IMO from your hubby because he is also invalidation your T's feelings and observations..which where in your favor thus its like a slap at both of you..Heck no you havent said anything to offend anyone..You are normal on all this