I grew up in a family that looked good on the outside to everyone, but all was not Ok inside of our home. I spent a great deal of time alone. I don't remember one time my mother did anything alone with me where we had fun together. There was a lot of physical and emotional abuse and I left home @20 to try to escape it all. I have a therapist I began to see 20 years ago to deal with a lot of these family issues. Somewhere along the way I began to give her tickets to attend an event with me and either my son or husband once a year. I always gave her two tickets so her husband could also come The event is something we both absolutely love and she has come to this event for the past 12 years. I asked why she has accepted my gift of tickets and why she bothers to show up? Because often it's after she has worked all day...and she answers me with "I know how much it means to you." Tonight she attended the event with me...we talked and laughed so much...I know she is not my Mom but her maternal side is always there to guide me and gives me courage to to face the day even when things are not going well. I know my next
session on Saturday we will go back to dealing with my life struggles...but tonight as always was grand. She is the best! Do you think this is a boundary violation? I don't feel violated in any way. I feel very much cared for.