I never really thought of that way- Like I want to "remove baggage" meaning a better way to cope with it- But perhaps the reason why I want to "remove baggage" is due to how I react sometimes with things- I noticed the other day when there was an argument I turned on the radio and talked to the dog instead of being the mediator or even paying attention to it which in some ways I should had been due to it does effect me on what the outcome is... but I try to stay out of stuff like always- but I ignore it sometimes too- which can be good but yet can be bad. I know a few years ago I was worse with this sort of stuff.... but am trying on my own to be better- but I am getting to the point of 3 years or more-- maybe I need some suggestions else where. Just like Sunday I believed everyone was talking smack about me in some way- I broke down on the car ride home with my boyfriend and told him what was going on in my head (I could tell he could tell something was up) we talked and he said it just takes a lot of practice and reminding self that some of it is not true... i broke down even more of how tired I am and that I dont want to be like this the rest of my life-- then a glimpse came to me that even with therapy just as he said- practice and reminding self- I will have to deal with this the rest of my life..... I don't know how I feel about this. But I will try... and hey maybe I get some really good suggestions on how to go about it all and cope