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Old Aug 23, 2011, 04:01 AM
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Be kind to yourself

It's just the first day. Believe it or not, others feel the same as you - wanting to make friends and at the same time being afraid of taking that first step. When you want to talk to someone, imagine that they are wanting what you want, wanting to talk to someone but afraid - so when you approach them, you are helping them to feel better.

There is no time limit. The first day or days can be full of so many new things to remember, organize, figure out. You have plenty of time to fulfill your desire for more friends and you don't have to put pressure on yourself to do that.

When someone tells you a long story, you can say something general like "That sounds great!" Try to just enjoy their story without thinking about how you will respond. Take that pressure off of yourself.

Be genuinely interested in the other person by listening to them and giving them your full attention (not thinking about yourself, what you are going to say, etc). When they are talking to you, they are in the process of impressing you and you don't have to do anything but listen. Even silences are fine.

Good luck on your 2nd day!