Perna Quote: I don't think we should "worry" about the other person; that's their job and editing our truth because we're afraid we might offend the other is a slippery slope to me. Tact is always nice but a lot of things, like JD points out, are not my problem so speaking about them is not something I should do.

Yes Perna, editing our truth because we are afraid we might offend the other person is a slippery slope. How much should we protect ourselves at the expense of others can be a challenge.

And saying "Their problem" not "Mine" can be used to help us remember that when someone is hurting us, yes, it is their issue or deficiency not ours.

But it also important to be able to see someone who has a definite question and simply may not know the answer. If you have an answer that you feel can help them
come to a better conclusion that they can use to truely assist themsleves in their struggle, I don't see any harm in reaching out.

To me the injustice takes place when someone asks a question and really struggles, others have a possible viable answer and "could" reach out. But they dont, they just walk away and simply say "Not my Problem".

And as I know JD, she is one that will try to reach out the best she can. The crime is not with the one who tries to stop and reach out, in the best way that person knows how to reach out. The "Crime" is that the others that chose not to reach out, stop and critisize the one person that at least tried to do so.

It is often a slippery slope Perna. And that is because as soon as someone at least tries to stop and listen and help, that person then becomes available to critisizm.
There can be different answers to one simple question. And often it is only when one possible answer is presented, that suddenly that one possible answer becomes the only catalist that enables various answers to be presented. It was all started by someone who was stuggling with a simple question, NO ONE WANTED TO TAKE THE TIME TO ANSWER. No one cared enough until one person did, and that person was needlessly attacked.

The best case scenario would be that many answers are presented to a question, and that many people have a true desire to actually come forward. Instead of coming forward to condem one that had the courage to stop and try to answer the question, the best case scenario is to just simply add other options and insight.

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