Unfotunately even the best and most loving of parents miss in their nurturing attempts. They try to raise us, mold us, adapt us to society, they rarely even know what it would look like to support their child naturalness.

From the earliest age we are basically told that the way we are is unacceptable, that in order to have our parents love we must stop being how we are and be some other way.

Any wonder we have no self-awareness and no self-acceptance? Many of us, many considered perfectly sane by the society, go through their entire life pretending to be someone else, totally immersed in the false self. We base our self-esteem on level of compliance. You can read and here how people base their self-esteem on ability to meet those social/parental expectations. "When I lose weight I have better self-esteem." "When I dress up nice I have a better self-esteem." "When I finish my education I have a better self-esteem." "When I get praise my self-esteem improves" "When I get criticised my self-esteem plummets"

The self-esteem has to be found within, not without.