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Originally Posted by tigergirl
What is the realistic value and likelihood of T terminating you? what evidence do you have that she is likely to do this? what evidence do you have that she won't do this? what would she gain by terminating you?
What is your experience of her being mad previously? How did being "mad" look? What did it sound like? Was she really mad at you or at a behaviour (eg. the headphone thing)
Has she been less kind previously when you've talked things through?
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I rationally know that the likelihood of her terminating are nil. And her being 'mad' was barely a whisper of a look on her face. It was me who brought it up weeks later. I am quite intuitive for that kind of thing.
She's always been extremely supportive and nice. She does everything she can to reassure me. Even when she talks of difficult stuff, she does it in such a sweet and kind way that it doesn't bother me EXCEPT when it touches one of my triggers and then all rational thought goes out the window.
So, no matter how much she tries to reassure me, when it's one of my issues, my rational brain can't 'hear' her anymore. My emotions have control. And when it's one of my issues, I am extremely extremely sensitive to the slightest nuance that I can detect that confirms my worst fears.
She had asked me what she could say to make it better for me and i had said that words cannot do it, only actions. But I don't know - I have no idea even what actions she could take to get me over the emotional reaction.