I'm not sure about where you are but here, if you mention hallucinations they will help you ASAP (because that can come from psychosis, not always though ofcourse). But that key word "hallucinations" will get you into treatment quick smart. Don't be embarrassed to tell them, just think of it as a means to get you the treatment you need. The keyword that opens the door, so to speak. And you wouldn't be lying, it would be the truth!

I am in the same situation as you but I don't have kids (that would make it wayyyy harder I bet!) so I sort of know how you feel about not being able to get treatment. Here all the beds in the psych wards are taken up by drug users that have psychosis from the drugs, and the legit mental health people miss out. It really sucks. No help for us.