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Then I told him I still didn't know if I wanted to get back together but that, anyway, I would break up with the other guy because I clearly wasn't ready to be in a relationship with someone else. Then, instead, I slept with the other guy one more time.
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1. i don't see how you were in the wrong since you were honest with your ex and told him at that time you weren't sure about getting back together. so sleeping with the other guy was your rightful choice.
2. your boyfriend seems very unstable. if you really feel you are a good match give him an ultimatum about therapy. he seriously needs it, imho.
3. i'm fearful also that he may harm you in a serious way.
4. not sure if this relationship will work. he's harboring a grudge that he chooses to. you all can't move forward cause he keeps himself and you in the past.
5. i know your intentions about being honest with him were well intended but hope you know now you didn't have to tell him. you didn't betray him in any way.
6. why not give the relationship a cooling off period. you know he has mental health issues. you know he won't let your" confession" go. you deserve better from him. don't believe that's possible.
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