Hi Amandalouise,

Thank you for pointing out the lack of confidentiality/security with email. I have known it wasn't secure, but have "taken my chances," so to speak, hoping no one would inadvertently read them. I've been feeling lately that perhaps i need to be more careful in this regard. I have divulged things in email that would cause great embarrassment if it were to become known by others. I need to remember that while it may feel secure and anonymous, it really isn't.

I love what your t has done in setting up individual mail boxes for private correspondence between t and client. I would very much like an opportunity like that! I don't think my t would do it though. She has said she often doesn't have the time to reply to my email. I figure that if she can't take time to type a short response, then handwriting one would take even more time. I think it's very cool that your t is willing and able to take that kind of time to ensure that her clients can communicate with her privately and confidentially.

I had the thought while i was reading your post that maybe i don't always know the difference between an "adult" need and a "child" need. For example, I often feel like i want my t to sit next to me and/or hold my hand for a minute or two. I've assumed that this a child need? But maybe not? As an adult, I have alot of fear of intimacy and closeness with others, so could it be an adult need, in that i am trying to bond in an adult way also, and not just in a child way? I dunno. I've rarely ever asked my t to actually do those things, though, as i feel that maybe it is wrong since I'm an adult? What do you think? Is wanting a measure of closeness or physical comfort when you're in pain an adult need or a child need?