Melissa, I can understand your anger. What your therapist has told you had quite obviously not been helpful.
Although I realise that they sometimes have to say things we don't like in order to shake us up and make changes, sometimes their statements and comments seem to be misplaced and inappropriate.

I recently had a few sessions with a counsellor, which were supposed to be a continuation of the counselling I had for a year with someone else who then went on maternity leave but they then only gave me six sessions without making that clear to me until just before the last session. Not very therapeutic to start with.
Then I had a very similar experience to yours with the new counsellor who I didn't get on with (the previous one I had established a really good relationship with). He told me in other words that I've possibly just not tried hard enough, that I haven't really lived etc (you can imagine how that makes you feel - like a failure) and then he came up with all these contradictory statements and actions such as telling me it's healthy to have time without therapy otherwise one could become dependent, but at the same time saying I could be another year in therapy...??!!!
The one good thing about all this is that I'm not working with him any longer even if that leaves me with hardly any support.

I would definitely tell your therapist how you feel about what she said and see whether you can work this through together. If this doesn't work, could you maybe change therapists?

I agree, Melissa, they sometimes don't get it right and what is said can be quite counter-productive.

I want to echo Hankster and say to you that we're here and we listen!

Take care, Melissa,

Shadow-world