I'm sorry, but why is he broadcasting your business around town?? When my fiance and I went through our troubles, I felt the need to protect him from the scorn of others, and have told VERY few people the whole story. They do not know us, him, or our relationship, and I will not give them a chance to judge any of it. That is not their place.

What's more is that this is, again, in the past. He should not be bringing up the past to crucify you today. If he loves you for who you are, then he should realize that the events in your past made you who you are today. Maybe if your past was different, you wouldn't be the same person you are and maybe he wouldn't love who you turned out to be as much. He needs to stop enjoying being the victim (which, clearly he is enjoying more than we realized if he's telling every one in town!). And no, it doesn't come into play because of what you did. They are completely unrelated events, you are not who you were back then.

Tell him to leave the past in the past, that he needs to realize he is hurting you, not only by bringing all of this up, but by sharing your private dirty laundry with the world, and that he needs to give up the whole "completely innocent v. wanton ways' bull. This man is in no way the saint he portrays himself to be.

Perhaps it is time to cut contact until he returns to where you are. Then you can follow through with TheByz's advice, get into therapy, couples and both individual, and start making progress, because right now, I feel like he is digging in his heels. Honestly, I get the feeling his is trying to hurt you, because you hurt him. But he never learned that an eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind. I know what you did was wrong, but it's time to start moving forward, without taking jabs at you where ever and whenever he can.