oh yes, I am beating myself up over not being able to bring up topics that are around the relationship between me and my therapist. And knowing several people who have also worked with him and have not done so, and later left, makes this seem even more important. If I'm going to leave, then I might as well bring it up..you are so right! Then, at least there is an "upside" gain to leaving. I will have had the experience of dealing with something so uncomfortable. I find that I'm more avoidant than I had thought before I started this therapy. Also, I can tell that I'm the MOST avoidant with white men that I perceive as being in a position of power -- which this particular T uses to his advantage, in my view. All in all, lots of learning going on.