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Originally Posted by mcl6136
oh yes, I am beating myself up over not being able to bring up topics that are around the relationship between me and my therapist. And knowing several people who have also worked with him and have not done so, and later left, makes this seem even more important. If I'm going to leave, then I might as well bring it up..you are so right! Then, at least there is an "upside" gain to leaving. I will have had the experience of dealing with something so uncomfortable. I find that I'm more avoidant than I had thought before I started this therapy. Also, I can tell that I'm the MOST avoidant with white men that I perceive as being in a position of power -- which this particular T uses to his advantage, in my view. All in all, lots of learning going on.  |
Oh no don't beat your self up. Look if you could get a good handle on what your T is doing and express it in a clear non emotional way to T and deal with whatever reaction he may have, then maybe you don't need to be seeing a T at all. We are enaged in this relationship with our T's precisely because we have difficulties in certain areas of our life. I think it is good to have challenges from T's, but I know if my T started playing covert games with me, I would lose trust in him and run a mile. It has to be a balance and I believe a good T shoud get this balance of challenging, but supporting absolutely right for each of their clients.
It sounds as if this experience has taught you alot about many things and that has to be a good thing. However it sounds as if unless you can raise this issue with T and come to a satisfactory outcome, then your progress with him may be impeded.
Would it help to write down the pros and cons of telling T, or pros and cons of staying with this T to help you to decide.
Good luck - let us know how it goes