Hello everyone,

I've come to you at the end of my rope. My sister is a stressed out young woman, who is preparing to leave for college soon. Her boyfriend is younger than her, so he won't be going yet. They fight often, and both can be quite cruel to each other (verbally). However lately they seem especially troubled; they quite nearly broke up, and at one point he mentioned thinking about killing himself. She told me this out of desperation, and I talked to both of them online to try to smooth things over.

However both of them widely refuse outside help. He just hates all help in general, and she won't accept advice if she doesn't like it. For example when I suggested she call a hotline when he made the mention of suicidal thoughts she refused the notion, citing it would 'ruin his life'. She also won't talk to either of our parents (which I don't entirely blame her for), the pastor who helped me deal with family troubles, or anyone for the matter. She can't decide what to do, and seems determined to try to help him.

Both sets of parents aren't really the greatest in the world. While not physically abusive our Dad is emotionally abusive, and our Mom is distant. His parents are widely unavailable and from what my sister implied his Dad is cruel verbally as well.

Honestly my head is spinning at this point. I know its teen drama, but with how stressed my sister is and his mention of suicide its getting pretty serious, and I don't know what to do. Do I betray her trust (and likely destroy our relationship for a long time) and rat him out? Do I keep quiet and hope it was just teen drama and nothing more? Help please. >_<;;