I'm sorry for this Irene. I hope you and your mom can solve your problems before you head off for school. Just try to remember, no one is perfect, including parents. When she gets stressed out, it's her way of trying to gain control by controlling you. It's wrong but again no one is perfect. It does sound like your mom is very controlling. Coming from a parent herself who had an unpleasant child hood, it takes a lot of me not to be extremely strict on my child. It's hard knowing the dangers that could be out there and watching our children face them head on. It's something a lot of parents go through but most parents learn to find a happy middle between caring too much and caring too little. I'm trying to find that place now. But as far as your mom goes, you're about to go off to college right? When you do it's your life. Let her know while you appreciate all of the love and support you have gotten from her over the years, you feel like you are growing up but she's putting a hold on that with how strict she is being and you're concerned that it may effect how your handle yourself when you're on your own. Without arguing, just let her know how much not experiencing life for yourself is effecting you. If you can find a way to say this calm and nicely, there's a good chance she will listen and hear what you have to say. If not, just remember you're off to school to start your own life soon enough and once you do, for the rest of your life the decisions you make will be yours and yours alone if you so chose.