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Originally Posted by skysblue
By excuses do you mean my numerous attempts to change the subject? Well, those were just a sampling - there were more...
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HOW FAST DO YOU TALK??!! Or read? People always tell ME to slow down (not so much anymore since I got on Topamax) but you must be like that old FedEx commercial! J/K
Time just goes SO FAST in session! Seems like we exchange 5 or 6 sentences back and forth, and it's over. Today:
Me: I met a cute guy from CA, he kind of invited me out to visit. He's rich.
T: Cool. (identifying details have been deleted to hide actual identities blah blah blah).
Me: I loaned you those CD's so my musician friend doesn't break my heart again.
T: I get it, I'm a buffer.
Me: I wanna have a session where I hand you stuffies. That's also part of the CD thing, me wanting to give you things. But I don't think I ever played that game with mummy. She never even let me sit next to her on the sofa. She played it with my nephew though.
T: We'll do it. "Stuffies" sounds English.
Me: Yes from PC.
T: I thought so. How are things there?
Me: GREAT! I emailed so-and-so yesterday, to make HER feel better, but she made ME FEEL better!
T: Ah, so-and-so! She really knows how to (something psychological that she is good at, and I am not, so I don't even recall the words, emotional something).
Me: Okay, what we were talking about yesterday (about getting engaged). Before we start. I am worried about you. I feel protective of you. Yesterday I said, What's so bad about you, what's so bad about me? (he had said we both had terrible track records, we both have 2 failed marriages). In theater, we pretend it's real, but we know it's not. I don't want you to open a vein here, feel you have to spill your guts, but I need something, because I never got anything. (And here I gave the example of Vaffla's T saying because of her family's history of lack of disclosure, she kinda cut her some slack on the facebook thing? I am rephrasing it VERY badly).
T: I'm glad you said that, I would not have gotten that otherwise. My "baggage" I bring to relationships is based on losing my mother at an early age; I will be angry and sad, and that makes my partners feel helpless.
Me: When you said that, the smile disappeared from my face.
T: Yes, you have said, and I know, people are worried about anger from their T's. What does that mean to you?
Me: No, it was a FAKE smile that disappeared. It's a relief! My muscles are relaxed now! It was a smile I had to have to deflect / defend all the time, to prove everything was all right when it wasn't. I also sighed from the top of my chest, like from my heart.
T: (surprised)
Me: Besides, I know how to comfort you (AGAINST PC GUIDELINES!!!) and you said you felt the comfort listening to the music last week.
T: It reminded me of a moment with my birth mom (describes it).
Me: You said you just though of that now, but you have mentioned it before, although not in relation to our music session. But it brings up this other issue of the sports movie - why do you always forget MY link to that?
T: You feel left out when I do that, you want me to buy you a shirt too...
Me: Well, if I had a choice, between you remembering everything, and you doing this, you coming in with no preconceived notions of who I am, like I get a "fresh copy" of you every time I come in, the psychological value of the fresh copy is FAR more valuable. You do it, I recognize you do it, and I haven't recognized and thanked you for it enough.
T: I have goosebumps. Thank you, that means a lot to me. Well, even when I DO have preconceived notions of you, you are pretty good at disabusing me of them...
Me: Abusing and disabusing you...
Okay, that's about 10 things there. That's not an exact transcript, but purt' near. We have 45 minutes, but there is also sit down and get up time, and peanut butter jelly time!

I did want to record this session, my face still feels great. Really a weird sensation to just have it relax like that. I feel like I was the Joker on Batman, all curled up. Now I'll have to watch the Heath Ledger movie. Sorry for the hijack. You know I am completely unable to start my own thread. Is there a dx for that?