Re your final sentence, you're right, I didn't. I think we are more alike than different. I spent my life with computers, you are with actual people, so you are more comfortable with "thicker" more palpable conversations? whereas I need to distill it to concepts? But I think we are both doing the same thing, getting them to answer our questions in a way that is meaningful to us. That sounds trivial but so not. Conversation, let alone therapy, can be so hard.

The humor thing is weird. I used to drive the 2nd husband nuts, I would either say, I never kid, or you know I'm always kidding.

I'm not your typical female, and get called sir a lot. In a dress, people think I'm in drag, it's a little distressing! Working on losing weight, but this happened even when I was young. My mother started working when I was small and really did not pay much attention to me, and I think I "imprinted" on my dad & brother, like a duckling! Plus, i've often suspected my parents were in the closet. Mum definitely wore the pants in the family and is very "sensitive" about lesbians, and my dad used to put on my coats and Easter bonnets, so... Is there an app here for THAT?!