It depends.

The first time, it felt weird. I was probably a couple of years into therapy, and going through this huge testing thing with T. Could I wear his glasses? (yes) wear his watch? (no) Go through his desk? (NO). Play with things on his desk? (yes) Sit in his chair? (yes!) LOL. I kind of can't imagine asking for that stuff now, but for a while there, I just asked anything and everything. I think there was a lot behind it, actually.

Anyhow, the first time I sat in his chair and he sat on the couch, it was like the dynamics shifted. T looked so comfortable on the couch, and not like his normal self (not that he doesn't always look comfortable, but he was just sitting differently than he usually does). It was just strange.

For a while, when I was really scared, I would sit in his chair. It felt so much more "contained" than the couch. I could sit in his chair and put a pillow on my lap or cover up with a blanket and feel super contained and safe.

And other times, I just liked sitting there, because it made me feel more bold about asking questions (if you can believe I could get more bold! ) and it seemed like it made T more open. We've actually both noticed that we relate a little differently to each other depending on where we're sitting. I guess after 54859472504725984725 hours of sitting together in that room paying such close attention to each other, it makes sense that we would notice little shifts.

I've only really sat in his chair a handful of times over the years...maybe 10? 15?...and I haven't sat there in a while.

Therapy is so strange, isn't it????