My experience with hugs from my t's has been that it was not initiated by me, but rather offered up to me by my t's as comfort and reassurance, particularly in really bad times. My current t hasn't hugged me often, but when he has he has wrapped me up in his big arms like a bear to reassure me that I would get through this. I guess I've never been one to ask for or initiate the hugs. So I guess my t's "words" through their hugs have been "You are going to be okay."