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Originally Posted by skysblue
Me and my friends greet and depart each other with hugs. Sometimes the hugs linger and feel very close and intimate. I like that. My in-laws are European and whereas we would greet them with a hug, they do 3 cheek pecks. I'm definitely not comfortable with that because I never know which cheek to start with and it feels less close than a hug. So, we usually stall out and do a dance -
Me: going for the hug
Them: going for the cheek
Me: uh oh - puckered lips coming my way.
Them: uh oh, big arms coming my way
Me: what to do now? shift the feet, change the angle, do the sidestep, hope we don't crash and fall
Them: same...
But hugging my T? Not a chance. It seems way too intimate and meaningful.
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Oh yes the three kiss thing -
- I think I have learned that most people go for the right hand side cheek first - took me a while to figure out, but now testing my theory on a couple of occasions I seem to have cracked it.
And if I were ever able to give / accept a hug from T, knowing it was just a hug from one person to another, to feel relaxed about it and not to question it or have to analyse it - then I think I would have made it on my journey.