(((AAAAA))) - I don't have any wise advice because my girls aren't older like yours are, plus I don't think I know more than you lol. You're an upstanding mother and they're lucky to have such a straight forward, honest mother. Don't be too hard on yourself and I hope everything works out for your son. He must be home sick and having a hard time adjusting .... being away from his twin. Boot camp is not only hard physically but draining mentally too I suppose.