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Originally Posted by just_some_girl
Sometimes I'm super aware of what I'm doing/not doing, and sometimes I'm not. Sometimes T will actually comment on the vibe I'm giving off - like, when I first started going, I used to perch on the edge of the chair with my hands gripping the edge of the seat each side of me, which she said made me seem nervous and unapproachable. Since then, I make sure to relax back into the chair!
She once impersonated how I was acting - quiet and avoiding her gaze - to demonstrate how I may come across to people...
I do try and make quite a lot of eye-contact, but sometimes I worry if I maintain enough/too much and then actively try to correct it.
Sometimes I 'talk' with my hands...
I often find myself from fidgeting with jewellery, or tapping/running my fingernails along the chair arms... so far no comment from T on that, lol, but I imagine she notices, so sometimes I make an effort to keep my hands still.
Just wondered what you guys make of this - and if you are aware/made aware of your body language in therapy. Do you fidget? What do you do? Do you try to stop and act in a measured way? Does your T comment on it? Is it something you even think about? Is it 'normal' for me to analyse my behaviour this way...?
Interested to hear your thoughts and experiences! xx
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Early in my therapy I fidgeted constantly, was very aware of it, and worried about it. I was so wholly anxious that there was no reason for my therapist to pinpoint my fidgeting as evidence of my feeling anxious.
Then I fidgeted less, but a lot, and didn't worry about it.
Now I sometimes fidget and can recognize it as a way of knowing that something is affecting me or that something is on my mind that I am having trouble reaching or expressing.
So, it got better as I became more comfortable with my wonderful therapist, with the process of therapy, and with myself.
Analyzing this is fine. It's something that interests you.
It sounds like fidgeting and thoughts about eye contact would be great topics for you in your therapy