Really trying to stay away from story telling....You have to remember one very important item. wether or not you love him. YOU have to reconcile for YOUR own reasons. not his or both of you. YOU. He is he his hurt and will go on hurting, there is only so much help he will accept from you before he starts to push you away, iregardless of your love, intention, devotion or any of it. The harder you to save the relationship, I mean really get in there try to make the horse drink, he will always walk away, and despite thirst and dehydration he will not drink to save his life, or relationship. As along as there are people around him the love and care about him. He will make his decision to love you back. One of your posts, you stated " he would come back if you told him to..." he has to want to come back, when your ASK him too....the important for him. He powerless around you, he loves you. But let him figure this out and come to you. If he can not come back to you, then remember......you reconcile with you. And yes I really do believe in a good partnerships, and they ALWAYS need help.