I am so sorry you are struggling through this, it sounds like you are really in a bad place. I get this way when I am depressed sometimes but more when I am dysphoric. Part of this cannot be controlled with anything but the right meds. You can learn some skills to manage your anger/frustration but it will take some time. I isolate alot when I am like this and usually my family realizes it is part of the disorder. But, they are human too and it makes it very difficult to deal with.

Keep talking with your husband and the people around you who your behavior effects. At least then the lines of communication are open and you can help them understand a bit more. Talk to your T about it, if you have one, and she/he can help you find ways to avoid the confrontation.

Many times when I am dysphoric, I have a bit of warning before I blow so I can calm myself by stopping, breathing, and going somewhere else in my head. When I let myself blow I get wound up and dont stop very easily. I have learned to control the triggers in my life to minimize the impacts.