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My husband and I have been together for 9 years and have been married for 2. He had been very forgiving and patient with my inattentive and random behavior for years. However, things started to change 3 or 4 years ago. He is getting tired of being my "parent" when what he needs is a supportive partner. I have long suspected that I have ADD and have just recently began researching it and have scheduled to discuss my possible diagnosis and treatment with my psychologist and psychiatrist. Putting myself on the right path and being proactive for myself isn't going to help how my husband feels. He's made it very clear that I have been bad to him and do not care. He wants me to address his feelings in the appropriate way, which is without him guiding me through the conversation. I get so confused and anxious whenever I need to talk to him about this. I really don't know what I'm doing, and whatever I choose to do just makes him more upset. We have been having the same argument for these 3-4 years, and I'm having a lot of trouble trying to figure out what to do.
Any advice people may have is welcome! Just note that my husband is resistant to therapy and believes that it will be ineffective and a waist of his time.
Thank you in advance!
-Dr. Panda
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