Oh wow it sounds just like me. No really we have been having the same argument for years as well."He wants me to address his feelings in the appropriate way, which is without him guiding me through the conversation" I have heard this who knows how many times. It sucks when you fell like you try so hard and yet what come out of your mouth seems to make it worse. I think you husband may be resistive to therapy maybe because he fears that it will be turned into him being the "bad" guy. Cause I had the same problem with my husband. I had always thought when you get married you try and try together and help the other person no matter what. The reality of it is the guys need there emotions addressed too, mine is super emotional we couldn't be any worse of a match. Cause I am the worst at "fixing" his emotions. I think we all have our breaking points too when we have had enough. Try typing each other messages, this helps me cause it takes the emotion out of it. I also did so online searching about how to communicate-that helped some too. And last if you want help get it. Without him. If he decides latter to get help too good for him. I have not been wanting to get help cause it makes me feel like I cannot do it myself. But I am starting to change my mind. It is my life, my health and if my husband who is also saying he wants to leave decides to walk this path with me or not I have to take care of myself before I can help anyone else. I don't know if any of this helps. It helps me to know you, to know I am NOT alone in this.