Well, I am in my early 40s and back in my younger days, I was a very brave and courageous guy. Not that long ago, let's say early/mid 30s.

By that I don't mean I climbed mountains and did dangerous things. I mean more on the inside. I was ready to take that risk, brave enough to take the risk, in my professional and personal life.

I think I've been beat down so much in my current job, that' it's taken my braveness and courageousness out of me. I know for some people it's a bad marriage or a bad relationship, but for me, as how much I try to seperate work and non work life, I think it's gotten to me overall.

So my question is, how do I get that back? I know as we grow older we change, but more and more I notice in some situations, I just don't have that urge to speak up, or in an argument or heated discussion at work, I almost go into doormat mode. Now if it's something personal, no problem, but if it's professional, I don't have an urge to argue my point. Not all the time, but I sense it more and more.

Any ideas how I get these 2 things back in my personality before I lost all 100 percent of it?