Hey Rainbowzz,
I've been married for 12 years and we've been together for 16 years now. ( we are both 33, so been together for a long time) At first it was very hard because I wasn't dx'ed until 6 years ago. So we had some hard times. But now that I've been dx'ed and he's been to T sessions with me it's gotten easier. He's had to gain the trust of the littles. Think since he's been able to do that things run a lot smoother. He can see now when it's not me or "his girlfriend Rachel".

They do want a lot of his attention now because he is nice to them. So he tries to set aside time to play with them when we have time. Sometimes he'll buy them stuffies and take them to the toy store. We've had to learn to balance things and our time. The littles have learned when it's not a good time to be around and h knows that he needs to back away at times if a little is around. Think the S.O. really really need to be understanding and patient.

But over all I would say we have a very happy healthy marriage. It just takes so much extra work when you have DID. There are a hugh mixes of issues that have to be worked out.

Monty