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Aug 29, 2011, 10:00 AM
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Member Since: Jun 2007
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Posts: 5,518
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Well said AAAAA. 
I only have experience with a son. When he was a young teenager, I'd remind him how much his grandparents loved him and how much I intend to love my own grandchildren. I would tell him how broken-hearted I'd be if any of my grandchildren had to suffer. If he chose to have sex with a girl, he needed to be sure he could deal with the possible consequences. He AND the girl would have to be prepared to throw away their own dreams and devote at least the next 18 years to that child. You never know if a child will be born with disabilities and special needs. Even a healthy child can throw well laid plans off track. Furthermore, if a child is produced from a relationship - he needed to be prepared to have the mother of his children play a role in the rest of his life. It usually adds a lot of extra burden to any future relationships - on both sides.
If your daughter thinks she's prepared to give her body to this young man, is she truly prepared for the consequences? Does this boy have what it takes to provide for a child - and her? Does he have the character traits she wants in a child? My son had little contact with his father while growing up, but it didn't matter because genetics played a huge role. He may have been raised by his stepfather, but he's exactly like my ex-husband (thank God I liked my ex as a person, lol).
Lastly, as a woman, I would advise your daughter to have more respect for herself. Her body is not a toy. If she has no respect for her body, her heart, and her life.....men won't either. Even if a child is not produced, she's play a dangerous game with her heart. She should spend a little more time getting to know her own heart and what it wants out of life before giving it to someone else.
Good luck, and kudos to you for taking on your best friend's daughter as your own. 
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