Warning in Advance - this might be too much information for some

I realize that there are many ADHD folks who don't need a lot of sex - they're easily distracted, etc.

I find, and pretty much always have, that the dopamine supplied though sex or at least orgasm, was [critical/greatly desired/important/etc.] - I can easily have sex 2x a day, and would, i think, if I had a chance.

But with the new dynamic that my wife and I have, I'm not even sleeping in the same room, much less getting _any_ physical contact at all, and it's been 2 months since we've had sex and 6 weeks since if had an orgasm.

I really feel like a basic element of my humanity is being dispossesed - my sexuality is a mere pawn for my wife to dictate what happens.

Now, I know that for years, I've made her feel like a sex toy, with my desire level higher than hers with ever passing year...and it's been 17 years of marriage, so there's been plenty of time for this issue to fester.

But I feel like I'm dying.

Thoughts?