(((Echoes)))
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I do not enjoy casual hugs at all. I have family who hug coming and going and it is meaningless to me. Diluted, I guess.
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I don't like casual hugs either; the half-hearted half hugs some people give, partly because the few times I've had them it's been from people I don't really know at all ... pushy ladies in public places and felt meaningless as far as not being about caring; and felt intrusive and I get triggered and block them out.
Something I noticed today in re-reading what you wrote is that there is a difference between giving a hug and being given a hug; and so much difference also in the kind of hug being exchanged. If I was the one giving a hug; firstly the world might come to an end in such an unlikely thing taking place, but after that the words would be "I really really trust and care about you beyond the depth of my fears and am giving you a gift that I don't really know how to give" ... something like that anyway.
If someone gave me one (a real one) it would say things like "I care"; "I'm here"; "I accept you"; "I'm not scared of you"; "you can trust me"