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Originally Posted by zbmom
If I were in your situation and I was seriously considering adoption this is what I would do.
1) Cease all contact with the (alleged) father. Notice I said alleged.
2) Start talking to a social worker who specializes in adoptions.
3) Really find out what your legal rights are.
4) When the baby is born, do not put the dad's name on the birth certificate.
He would have to contest the adoption, and prove he is the biological father to stop it from happening. He might be too lazy or full of hot air to follow through with either, and going to court costs a lot of money.
You need good, up to date legal advice, and you need to be working with a social worker. There are too many factors and too much to navigate for you to shoulder this alone.
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Thanks for the advice. I have decided that I am going to keep her. I have read about not putting him on the birth certificate. What I have read is that you are required to put the name on there if you know who it is. I have considered it saying that I have no idea who the father is but money is never a problem for him. He wouldn't care to spend a lot to make me miserable. I do need to get some good legal help. I have stopped talking to him because it was just counterproductive and always made me feel worse.