Yes, I fidget in therapy, and allow myself to do so very deliberately. I see it as another way to communicate with my T and I don't want to hide that from him. I pick up little objects he has on the table next to where I sit and I play with them, turning them over and over in my hand, etc. Sometimes, if I have been crying, I fold the kleenex I've been using up into a little square, with many folds, before I toss it into the trash. I do these things to communicate my level of stress, anxiety, pent up energy, etc. to my T. I don't want to fake being still on the outside when I'm not on the inside. It also lets me discharge some extra energy so I can talk more easily to him. I don't see the fidgeting as a bad thing. If I were with someone outside of therapy in a business meeting, I would probably not allow myself the luxury (and honesty) of fidgeting.

My T has never commented on my fidgeting. He doesn't act bothered by it. There have been a couple of times I was fidgeting with certain objects on his table and he turned the conversation to them and told me what they were, their meaning to him, or showed me how to use them. These were nice conversations that drew us closer.