I agree with Ryask. I think your wife needs some space. If she has a wall up then it would be very difficult to try to get her to see your point of view. If her wall is up, anything you do can be taken the wrong way by your wife, not because you meant it that way, just because she sees things differently since she feels the need to protect herself from you. Your best intentions and actions may not look that way to her, they may be painting a completely different picture. I would guess she needs space to sort through things herself. You may get more accomplished in terms of your child if you keep the setting up of times and actual visitation more businesslike when it comes to your wife. Set up a time and place to meet to do exchanges. Stick to small chit-chat and matters concerning the child when meeting or calling to set-up exchanges or get updates on the child, don't ask personal questions and don't give personal information.