i need to rant, spent the weekend playing ref to son and his gf, son has problems dont think he should be living with her but cant control him or wrap him in cotton wall(bubble wrap)

wish i could

sunday night i was asked if i could go to there flat coz he was scaring her he was throwing stuff at her, and threatening her with a bowl, arrived with her leaving the flat we spoke to so who looked really upset, his response was she hit me so i pushed her she also stated she would call the police say he raped her, im now worried that this relationship is very volatile, so i did what any parent would try to help, grrr i went i played ref said they need to sort it out or end it

drat they made up, so Mon can you phone son again coz he wont let me out room
so i asked why what set him off well im on phone he thinks im talking about him, (yea u are to me) sons paranoia set in he freaked , i couldn't do much yesterday as it was a bank holiday here, so today i phoned social services explaining sons breath probs with adhd no meds now slight learning difficulties and so on, i explained all that happened over the weekend, which is making a self referral, the lady was helpful taking notes she contacted me bk with information of how to handle situation, suggested i phone docs talk to them about how son has been since coming of meds, so i go to do this to find he changed doctors against my advice not to, grrrr grrrr, i can only tell son that her shouting rape is dangerous for him, putting his name on a police
wish he let me sort out social services before he moved in with her grrr