These categories below are very interesting!

I had the Predictably Unresponsive parents which says that I fear being vulnerable - interesting...... The whole paragragh describes how I was pretty much.

How about everyone else? Can you fit yourself into one of these categories or a few?

"When a child's caretakers are inconsistently responsive in satisfying the child's relational-needs, a pattern of clinging and over-dependency develops -- a pattern wherein the child is nervous, constantly focused on the caretaker, and worried about the loss of nurturance. The phenomenological experience of such relational inconsistency is in a sense of "neediness". The person becomes sensitive to other's misattunements and highly adaptive to others in order to get some semblances of his or her needs satisfied. Later in life they often experience that other people will not take their needs seriously. They have an implicit fear of loss of relationship and will often do anything to cling to a relationship even if it is not good for them.

those who had caretakers who were predictably unresponsive to the child's relational needs. When parents, caretakers, teachers or other significant people are consistently emotionally unavailable and predictably unresponsive to relational-needs, the child's needs for security, validation, or self-definition get ignored. When a child's feelings and needs are consistently ignored eventually the child can predict that "I will not get any emotional sensitivity" or "My needs will not be met". In these situations children often give up trying to be connected to significant others or they may even give up sensing their own needs. A child who lives with significant relationships that are consistently misattuned and emotionally unresponsive may later in life compensate for the lack of need satisfaction by avoiding intimacy and undervaluing the importance of relationship. They may appear to be emotionally detached and even disdainful of their own or other people's needs and emotions because they have an implicit fear of vulnerability.

When significant people in a child's life are predictably punishing, particularly when the child is in the midst of expressing his or her relational-needs, there is a disorganizing traumatic reaction within the child's brain and body. This disorganization is profoundly disturbing internally hence subsequently in relationships. If the very person on whom the child depends for need satisfaction is the same one who is predictably punishing, then the child's experience of body sensations, affects, needs, and relationship will be profoundly confusing. This confusion may endure later in life as a highly disorganized style or pattern of attachment because they have a physically intenseimplicit fear of violation.

When a child's natural dependency on significant others for their satisfaction of relational-needs is repeatedly met with invasive and controlling caretaking --- an accumulation of rhythmic and affect misattunements --- the child may then develop patterns of relationship and attachment marked by a social façade, psychological withdrawal, and the absence of emotional expression. People with an isolated attachment style or pattern have an implicit fear of invasion that is reflected in the both their diminished affect and withdrawal in interpersonal contact. To be authentic is sensed as dangerous."