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Originally Posted by Philmac
For me, there are two problems with seeing a therapist:
#1 It's very expensive
#2 I don't have any experiences to discuss
I know that a therapist is going to ask me questions about past relationships and my current relationship, but the problem with that is that I've never been in a relationship at any point in my life. There really isn't a single relevant experience in my whole life. In fact, I remember being as young as 4 or 5 and being disgusted by those Calvin Klein perfume commercials (early-mid '90s). Not that they were pornographic or anything, but I do recall something about the actors expressing some desire to be with one another. Even at that age, I knew what this commercial was insinuating ("this fragrance will make you more desirable to the opposite sex"). So it seems like this aversion to physical intimacy is hard-wired into me; there's no "cause" per se.
So basically, there isn't anything for me to discuss with a therapist. No physical abuse, no witnessing physical abuse, no brainwashing, no like-minded people in my family/social circle, no bad dating experiences, etc.. And when the therapist asks me "how does your current partner feel about this" or something to that effect, the only thing I'll be able to tell them is "I don't have one".
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Hi. I do not think you would be posting this issue here if this was not a serious problem. Please don't try to predict what a therapist would ask you because it's not possible to predict what will happen. Be sure, though, to select a therapist who specializes in your issues. Your lack of experience and desire for intimacy are what you need to discuss. You need to examine your thought processes and reasons why you feel this way. Hopefully, a therapist will enable you to have experiences that are positive that will counteract your inner belief system that is holding you back and preventing you from going out and experiencing life and finding love.
Regarding the cost involved - you are worth it. It's not possible to put a price tag on getting yourself a life. Having a good life is priceless. Now is the time to determine what the problem is and to work through it. Please give it a try! All the best to you.