I can't believe I don't know what my T's rug looks like!!! That's progress for me. I've looked into my T's eyes more than I have any other T. I think it helps that her eyes are very pretty and that we have such a good relationship. I love to look in her eyes!

Still, when I'm very anxious I look elsewhere in the room. I think it also helps that she asks me to close my eyes when we're doing IFS and EMDR, which typically are about embarrassing subjects. I'm not afraid to talk when my eyes are closed. If they are open, I look around until I decide it's better to look at her.