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Originally Posted by Blades
I have a strange question to ask and I know how it is going to sound but stick with me please. My girlfriend's younger cousin has a crush on her and I was wondering if I should say something about it to her or just ignore it. He is only thirteen and I met him for the first time yesterday. When we were alone he told me Mandy was his girlfriend, not mine and he was going to marry her when he grew up. I laughed at him because I didn't know what to say but it is a bit disturbing.
At thirteen he shouldn't be having feelings like for his cousin and he should probably be talking to somebody about them. I have two female cousins and I never had any feelings like that for them when I was younger. Just the thought of it would have made me sick. He hugged her four times when we were there and Mandy was very friendly with him. I'm not jealous or threatened but I am concerned about his wellbeing.
Has anybody else on this forum came across a scenario like this and what do you think I should do? Is it natural for a boy his age to have these feelings? I was surprised she had a cousin this young but there is apparently a ten year age gap between her Father and her Aunt.
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I did some checking with the district attorneys office here in town.. this is going to sound a bit confusing so bear with me..
In the USA -
first cousins can not engage in intimate relations and cannot marry.
Some USA states have made some new laws that use the wording "first cousins once removed" can marry.
that wording sometimes leads people to believe first cousins can marry. but thats not what the laws mean.
building a family tree here -
my mother has a sister.
the sister is my aunt.
the aunt has a child. this child is my first cousin.
this means it is the first generation of cousins in the family.
now we take this generation and add another generation of cousins by -
my first cousin has a child. this child is called my second cousin.
my second cousin is also called my "first cousin once removed" because there is a generation of cousins (my aunts children) in between me and this second cousin.
I cannot marry my aunt
I cannot marry my aunts children who are my first cousins.
but I can marry my second cousins because they are my first cousins children and a whole generation has gone by in the gene pool.
To find out what your Australian laws are contact your treatment providers or your governing officials - police, prosecuting attorneys. they can sort out whether this cousin and your girl can marry.
