"i just would like to say that i think your husband feels lost."

This sums it up quite succinctly.

Men are protectors. But we cannot protect our families from bipolar. We can only watch our loved ones suffer and feel helpless and lost because we can only do so much to help. When it is your wife, who you have promised to take care of, or your child, who you would gladly give your life for, it is hard to deal with the inability to protect our family from something we see hurting them.

I can take steps to protect my family from crime, fire, injury, homelessness, hunger... but I cannot protect my wife or son- both BP2- from the bipolar bear.

Yes, he feels lost.